New Year’s Resolutions

A quick guest blog from our wonderful ambassador Emma Griffin from Next. If you do head to selected Next stores across the Midlands over the next week or two, our #SOSAngels are still for sale. Find out more about our Angels here – SOS Silence of Suicide.

Setting our 2021 New Year Resolutions

The start of a New Year means a new start for many people. They see it as a fresh beginning, setting themselves goals and ambitions that they want to achieve in the next 12 months and write lists of things they want to change. Many of us would have done this at the beginning of 2020, blissfully unaware that the year we were all going to have to face would throw our goals out the window. But when we don’t achieve our ambitions, we can feel like a failure, feel useless, or hold many other negative beliefs about ourselves.

What we all need to remember however is that 2020 wasn’t about the holidays or material things, or how much we did or didn’t get done. It was about finding happiness in the things we already had –  our friends, family, health, homes, food, water. It was about having the space to reflect; finding peace and gratitude for life’s little things.

With this in mind, looking back at our 2020 goals, can we see them differently now? The money we did save helped through the times we were unable to work, the promotions may have been missed but having the freedom to work from home has now opened up so many more opportunities. Even if we did nothing at all, it was a rest our bodies needed in order to be recharged. By changing our perceptions, we strip out the guilt and replace it with gratitude. Despite everything this year, we have lots to be grateful for.

This is important to remember when we are writing our New Years’ resolutions for 2021 – replacing our material goals for meaningful ones. What are our true values? What is important to us? What makes us happy? Sometimes, we can fall into a trap of doing things we feel like we should do rather than what we want to do and in 2021, let’s change this.

Maybe now that expensive holiday is replaced by visiting a friend you have not seen in a long time, maybe by picking up dance lessons again because you loved them as a child. Maybe it’s volunteering at a charity that means something special to you – it might even be a new career altogether. Learn what makes your heart sing and aim for that. Pick resolutions that lead you closer to your happy place and let’s be kinder to ourselves if we don’t quite reach them by the end of the year. Each day is a new adventure – be patient with yourself and enjoy the journey.

Lastly I just want to wish you all a very happy New Year and hope 2021 brings much more peace and happiness to every one of you. Remember that whilst we may not all be in the same boat, we are all in the same storm.

If you are struggling and feel like you need to speak to someone, please reach out to our SOS helpline on 0300 1020 505. Lines are open every day between midday and midnight and someone will be there to listen. From 1 February, lines will be open even longer; from 8am every day.